Taught by There Are Wives: Consultants Barbara Allen, Meryl Nietsch-Cooperman, & Others
Through studying the opposites of contempt and respect in the history of marriage and in their own lives including yesterday’s incident at the breakfast table — wives learn how to use marriage and a husband to like the world. There is class discussion of such subjects as:
- Real Trust in Marriage—How Can We Have It?
- Is Understanding Your Husband Exciting?
- How Can a Wife Feel Proud about Sex?
- First Cupid, Then Quarrels—What’s the Cause?
Note: For now, this class is being given as a semester course, three classes per semester.
The Spring-Summer 2020 semester of classes via video conference is now in session. To audit a class, permission must be requested by telephone 2 days in advance of the date of the class. Contact Registrar at 212.777.5055, between 2-6 PM Monday through Friday. If permission to audit is granted, click here to pay the auditing fee of $10.
Saturday, June 13, 11 AM – 12:30 PM
“What, Really, Is Good Will in Marriage?”
“Good will itself is an aesthetic thing: the ability to be just to oneself, and to all—near and far—that is not oneself….Aesthetic Realism sees all the pain of love as having arisen from the absence or deficiency of good will….We want to care for people; we want to encourage them. But we also, if we are really friendly, hope to see their weakness less and their faults decreasingly powerful. This means that both love and criticism are aspects of good will, and we have to find a way of relating them so that we are pleased with ourselves.”
—Eli Siegel, from The Right of Aesthetic Realism to Be Known #1000
Saturday, July 11, 11 AM – 12:30 PM
“Marriage & Art—What Is the Relation?”
“A situation, having to do with ethics, which very often occurs in married life [is]: One person wants to do A and the other wants to do B. This makes for a great deal of trouble….It has the aesthetic problem with it: how can you please yourself and do what you want to do, and please another. That is a sameness and difference problem, which makes it an aesthetic problem. We have a desire to please another; we have a desire to please ourselves; we also have a desire to displease another.
“Very often a person, having made up one’s mind about something, has to change it in a hurry. And a person is very awkward then, because there isn’t enough flexibility. It is like blending colors: if you go from one color to another too crudely, you can’t have a true blending.”
—Eli Siegel, from Aesthetics Meets Love
Information for the August 8 class will be announced soon.
2nd Saturday of each month, 11:00 AM – 12:30 PM Eastern Time (USA)
Dates of this class: Jun 13, Jul 11, Aug 8
Fee: $30 per semester (3 classes)
To audit a class, permission must be requested by telephone 2 days in advance of the date of the class. Contact Registrar at 212.777.5055, between 2 – 6 PM Monday through Friday.
If permission to audit is granted, click here to pay the auditing fee of $10.
“I had a lot of confusion and trouble in love. This class changed the direction of my life and taught me how to be successful caring for a man. I learned that a man is related to the whole world! I’m proud and grateful to be married to my dear husband and to be celebrating our 11th anniversary.” —Claudia Senatore, Nurse Practitioner
“I learned what true love is and it has made me feel integrated as a wife, teacher, daughter, and friend. I now really talk to my husband–and am really able to listen. Our conversations are now exciting! Not only do I love my husband more, but I care more for other people and the world itself. This class makes love possible and permanent.” —Monique Michael, Teacher
“After a failed marriage, I was able to learn about the mistakes I made in love. As a result, when my second husband and I exchanged marriage vows, it was one of the proudest days of my life because I knew I was getting married for the right reason! Six years later, our marriage is flourishing.” —Lori Colavito, Teacher
You can read these news articles:
- “Learn How Marriage Can Succeed in a Failed Economy“
- “How Should a Widow Cope with the Loss of Her Spouse?“