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Understanding Marriage!

Taught by Aesthetic Realism consultants Barbara Allen, Meryl Nietsch-Cooperman, & Devorah Tarrow

Through studying the opposites of contempt and respect in the history of marriage and in their own lives including yesterday’s incident at the breakfast table — wives learn how to use marriage and a husband to like the world. There is class discussion of such subjects as:

  • Real Trust in Marriage—How Can We Have It?
  • Is Understanding Your Husband Exciting?
  • How Can a Wife Feel Proud about Sex?
  • First Cupid, Then Quarrels—What’s the Cause?

2nd Saturday of each month, 11:00 AM – 12:30 PM Eastern Time (USA)

Note: For now, this class is being given as a semester course, four classes per semester.

Classes via Zoom video conference are now in session.

WINTER 2022

  • Jan 8: What Is Real Kindness in Marriage?

One way the large problem can be put is this: how to be kind without limit and at the same time take care of oneself without limit. The idea is always to feel that in being nice to something, you are nice to yourself. If in being nice to something you are not being nice to yourself, you are sacrificial. The only kindness, as Aesthetic Realism sees it, that exists, is the desire for the other person to be more complete, more organized, stronger, more himself or herself.

—Eli Siegel, from Mind and Kindness

  • Feb 12: The Mix-Up in Wives about Need & Independence—& the Practical Answer!

Love has been called by Aesthetic Realism “proud need.” Every person would like to be secret, sequestered, alone, do things for oneself, and every person wants to be loved without limit. It can make for great trouble. When we’re involved with a person and we’re not proud that we need that person, there has to be anger. There’s a certain false pleasure we have in showing we don’t need anybody. Aesthetic Realism says good sense is the needing more and the being proud of it.

—Eli Siegel, from an Aesthetic Realism Lesson

  • Mar 12: How Can There Be Real Trust in Marriage?

Everyone is looking for an answer to the question “Why am I not trusted?” Let’s take Mrs. Fox. She thinks she is trusted partially by her husband.  She, in turn, responds with partial trust of him. Both are correct. This is a question every person should ask: Will I be happy unless I feel I deserve to be trusted?…A crucial area as to trust is this: when you say you want someone to be happy, do you mean it, or are you putting on a show? The first thing in being trusted is that we be interested in the welfare of other people.

—Eli Siegel, from
The Right of Aesthetic Realism to Be Known #1934

  • Apr 9: A Wife’s Insistence: What Makes It Right or Wrong?

Insistence is what we all do. Like other aspects of mind, it can be good and bad. We have a possibility of insistence on having our way and to hell with everything else. We have also the insistence which is a good thing: on liking ourselves and understanding things.

A wife can insist on an attitude that she has to her spouse, and an attitude her spouse should have to her. We need to understand how we can insist on something which is as necessary as a hole in the head.

—Eli Siegel, from Mind and Insistence

Want to audit a class?

  • Contact the registrar at 212.777.5055, between 2-6 PM Eastern Time (USA), Monday through Friday.
  • Be sure to make your request at least 2 days in advance of the class.
  • Once you receive permission to audit a class, click on the “AUDIT” button to pay the fee.

Fee: $40 per semester (4 classes)

Auditing fee: $12

FACULTY BIOS:
Barbara Allen, Meryl Nietsch-Cooperman, Devorah Tarrow

Women say–

Claudia Senatore

“I had a lot of confusion and trouble in love. This class changed the direction of my life and taught me how to be successful caring for a man. I learned that a man is related to the whole world! I’m proud and grateful to be married to my dear husband and to be celebrating our 11th anniversary.” —Claudia Senatore, Nurse Practitioner

Monique Michael“I learned what true love is and it has made me feel integrated as a wife, teacher, daughter, and friend. I now really talk to my husband–and am really able to listen. Our conversations are now exciting! Not only do I love my husband more, but I care more for other people and the world itself. This class makes love possible and permanent.” —Monique Michael, Teacher

Lori Colavito“After a failed marriage, I was able to learn about the mistakes I made in love. As a result, when my second husband and I exchanged marriage vows, it was one of the proudest days of my life because I knew I was getting married for the right reason! Six years later, our marriage is flourishing.” —Lori Colavito, Teacher

You can read these news articles:

1. “Learn How Marriage Can Succeed in a Failed Economy“
2. “How Should a Widow Cope with the Loss of Her Spouse?“

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