Devorah Tarrow, Aesthetic Realism consultant, writes:
Women and men so often feel and show to one another, thinking they’re in the midst of the greatest love and romance: “You’re the only thing I need!” and “When we’re together no one else matters!” Yet why do wives and husbands feel distant from each other, resentful of each other, bored? And how can that change?
To the tremendous benefit of marriages, the Saturday, February 9th, Understanding Marriage! class will address with clearness: What Big Mistake Do Couples Make about Other People?
This event, from 11:00 AM to 12:30 PM, is taught by consultants Barbara Allen, Anne Fielding, and Meryl Nietsch-Cooperman, and is based on the following explanation by Eli Siegel, founder of Aesthetic Realism: “The purpose of marriage is to like the world. The reason happiness in marriage is such a rare item is that people have tried to love in a way that would mean less of a like for the world—in fact, a contempt for it.”
There’s going to be discussion of these illuminating and very kind sentences from Mr. Siegel’s groundbreaking lecture Aesthetic Realism and People:
To dismiss the rest of the human race and say, “I’m going to love Marie” or “I’m going to love Montgomery”—that can never be. The purpose of loving one person is to love people and things in general. What happens most often is that through loving one person, we get to be less interested in people. We have a notion that since we’ve caged a person, our job of understanding other persons is over. And so the function of love—which is the understanding of people and reality as a whole through the close, musical, complete seeing of one person–is not kept to….Love for a person cannot be dissociated from love for people in general.
Each woman attending will be having a thrilling time seeing something new: what the big mistake of couples is, and what they truly want to go after. The Understanding Marriage! class brings to people big, romantic, ever so practical, and marriage-strengthening knowledge!
The fee for the class is $10. For more information, call 212.777.4490.