Devorah Tarrow, Aesthetic Realism consultant, writes:

“The Drama in Marriage about Secrecy & Being Known” will be the subject of the Understanding Marriage! class on Saturday, January 11, 2020, 11:00 AM-12:30 PM. Barbara Allen, Meryl Nietsch-Cooperman, and other Aesthetic Realism consultants conduct this class. Its basis the following statement by Eli Siegel, founder of Aesthetic Realism: “Marriage is a means for liking the world through a person. Too often, though, marriage is a contemptuous exclusion of the world.”

On the one hand, women have felt their spouse wasn’t interested in understanding them, and that has often been true. But Aesthetic Realism asks this central and surprising question: Is there something a woman needs to see about a desire in her, coming from contempt, not to be known, but to keep herself hidden and apart?

At the January 11th class, these sentences from Mr. Siegel’s groundbreaking lecture Aesthetic Realism and Love, will be discussed:

A complaint of women all through the years is this: somehow the person they see themselves as being, is not the person their spouse sees. They do not feel that they are being known. They cannot say this clearly; but they feel lonely. The person they married also feels lonely—because two people have adored each other without being understood.…Yet, people think they can do more in being unknown and misunderstood, really, than in being known.

Suppose Madeleine says (for example), “Rupert represents the outside world. In marrying him, I want to show myself to him more each week. There is no limit to being known. There is no limit to how much I can like the world through being honest, excitingly honest, with Rupert.”  Then Madeleine wouldn’t get into that discontented, sour state that the Madeleines of America do get into.

Each person attending will get new knowledge and new hope! The discussions at this kind and ever so practical event—open to all women—will be fresh, enlivening, deeply instructive, and marriage-revitalizing!

The fee for the class is $10. For more information, call 212.777.4490.