Devorah Tarrow, Aesthetic Realism consultant, writes:
“The Drama in Marriage about Secrecy & Being Known” will be the subject of the Understanding Marriage! class on Saturday, July 8th, 11:00 AM-12:30 PM. Aesthetic Realism consultants Barbara Allen, Anne Fielding, and Meryl Nietsch-Cooperman conduct this class, the basis of which is in the following statement by Eli Siegel, founder of Aesthetic Realism: “Marriage is a means for liking the world through a person. Too often, though, marriage is a contemptuous exclusion of the world.” This event is open to all women.
On the one hand, women have felt men didn’t want to understand them, and that has often been true. But Aesthetic Realism asks this central, surprising question: Is there something a woman needs to see about a desire in her, coming from contempt, not to be known, but to keep herself hidden and apart?
At the July 8th class, these great sentences from Mr. Siegel’s groundbreaking lecture Aesthetic Realism and Love will be taken up:
A complaint of women all through the years is this: somehow the person they see themselves as being, is not the person their husband sees. They do not feel that they are being known. They cannot say this clearly; but they feel lonely. The husband also feels lonely—because two people have adored each other without being understood.
Yet, people think they can do more in being unknown and misunderstood, really, than in being known.
Suppose Madeleine says, “Rupert represents the outside world. In marrying him, I want to show myself to him more each week. There is no limit to being known. There is no limit to how much I can like the world through being honest, excitingly honest, with Rupert.” Then Madeline wouldn’t get into that discontented, sour state that the Madeleines of America do get into.
Through discussions at this event, each woman will get new knowledge, new hope as she sees how the drama of secrecy and being known is a cultural matter. And each women attending will feel her marriage can have fresh, vibrant, and thrilling meaning!
The fee for the class is $10. For more information, call 212.777.4490.