Devorah Tarrow, Aesthetic Realism consultant, writes:

Tomorrow a woman will marry feeling that the man she’s chosen has shown her the adoration she’s longed for, and she wants—and expects—that that adoration will continue. But is being adored what a woman should be going for at all? Or is something else, something completely different, what a woman wants most? In fact, is going after adoration harmful to love itself?

“The Big Debate in a Wife: To Be Adored or to Appreciate the World Rightly?” will be the topic the Understanding Marriage! class will discuss and answer with kind honesty, depth, and humor. The class will take place on Saturday, January 13th, from 11:00 AM to 12:30 PM, and is taught by the teaching trio There Are Wives—Barbara Allen, Anne Fielding, and Meryl Nietsch-Cooperman—authorities on marriage. There will be a lively discussion of the following sentences from Mind and Appreciation, a lecture by Eli Siegel, founder of Aesthetic Realism:

To appreciate something means to like it by seeing it as it is. In all true appreciation there must be knowledge….It is very easy not to appreciate something. What people don’t see is that in the process of being unfair to the thing that could be appreciated, they are also unfair to themselves. To appreciate rightly is success in life. The purpose of life is to like the world, and that is another way of saying to appreciate the world.

Women at this event will be newly educated! They’ll learn that what a woman really wants is for herself and her husband to increase appreciation in both of them for the world and for other people. That’s what makes for real—and romantic—success. The immediate, practical meaning of this will come alive for each woman, to the great benefit of her life and marriage!

The fee for the class is $10. For more information, call 212.777.4490.