Devorah Tarrow, Aesthetic Realism consultant, writes:
Even in our “you can have it all” era, a woman can feel that her life at home—how she is with her spouse or family—is in a different world from her job, studies, cultural interests. She can feel her home is cozier than the large, puzzling world outside, yet she has also felt narrower and out of relation at home. What is the answer?
“Domesticity & the Big World Outside—How Can a Wife Be Fair to Both?” will be the subject that the Understanding Marriage! class will address and answer with exciting clarity on Sat., November 9th, from 11 am to 12:30 pm. The class is open to all women.
Barbara Allen, Meryl Nietsch-Cooperman, and other Aesthetic Realism consultants conduct this thrilling class. They’ll take up the following sentences from the landmark lecture Aesthetic Realism and Love, by the great American poet and critic Eli Siegel, the founder of Aesthetic Realism:
Love is most often seen as a kind of compact security. It is not seen, as it should be, as an agreement to know….Most women who are interested in their minds nevertheless think that being with their spouse is a time to be contracted and limited….Where love does not mean the knowing and love for other things too, Aesthetic Realism definitely says it’s a fake. A love for a person is a love for persons, a love for humanity, a love for reality.
The class will show: it isn’t marriage per se that causes a wife to “be contracted and limited” when at home; but rather, it is one’s desire to use married life as “a contemptuous exclusion of the world.” And women will be learning that, yes!, a wife can be fair to domesticity and everything else—the big world—when her purpose is to use care for one person to care more for the world and other people. Aesthetic Realism shows this is the purpose of marriage and of life itself—honestly to like the world.
The fee for the class is $10. For more information, call 212.777.4490.