Devorah Tarrow, Aesthetic Realism consultant, writes,
Quarrels in marriage beset and distress wives and husbands everywhere. Where does the anger come from between two people who once said they loved each other? That will be explained with depth, kindness, and humor too, in the Understanding Marriage! class on Saturday, August 11th: Quarrels in Marriage—What Are They Really About? The class takes place from 11:00 AM to 12:30 PM, and is open to all women. This cultural and down-to-earth event will be conducted by consultants Barbara Allen, Anne Fielding, and Meryl Nietsch-Cooperman of the teaching trio There Are Wives.
They’ll show that it’s possible for a dispute between married people to be kind, and a source of pride, and this can happen if a person is truly arguing in behalf of justice to reality itself. However, the class will discuss the other kind of quarreling—the quarrels that are so frequent and that make couples ashamed. The basis of the discussion will be these great sentences from Aesthetic Realism and Love, a groundbreaking lecture by Eli Siegel, founder of Aesthetic Realism:
The purpose of marriage is to like the world. You’re not marrying only a person, but a representative of the outside world. But if you don’t want to respect the world through this person, there come to be quarrels. They never come really from the thing that seems to be the cause of the quarrel. They come from the fact that two people who think they adore each other are also limiting each other. When we love a person it should be because that person is bringing out strength in us, enabling us to be more ourselves.
Every woman will get fresh hope learning what the everyday quarrels which so often eat away at marriages are really about: that two married people have used each other to lessen their respect for the world. And women will learn what makes kindness and care grow in a marriage: encouraging each other’s greatest hope, which is to like the world honestly, to see meaning in the world and people.
The fee for the class is $10. For more information, call 212.777.4490.