Devorah Tarrow, Aesthetic Realism consultant, writes:
Possessiveness—wives and husbands have been driven by it in intense and also subtle ways. For instance, many a woman has felt about her husband, “He’s my world!” and thought it proof of her love. Or she might feel she “knows” him, what’s best for him, what he should wear, what he should like, what he’s going to say. Underlying such feelings is really a fierce ownership: “I’m the only one he should need. Anything or anyone else is a threat I resent and must fend off.” And instead of their love increasing, a wife and husband feel stifled, angry, stuck.
“In Marriage—What’s the Difference between Love & Possessiveness?” will be the subject of the Understanding Marriage! class on Saturday morning, February 11th, from 11:00 AM-12:30 PM. The class is taught by consultants of the teaching trio There Are Wives: Barbara Allen, Anne Fielding, and Meryl Nietsch-Cooperman.
Women will be learning the crucial difference between love and possessiveness through studying the following illuminating sentences by Eli Siegel, American poet and critic, and founder of Aesthetic Realism:
Love is a way of liking the world through a person. Possessiveness is really not the caring for a person; it is the caring for the importance that a person gives us. There is a great difference. Possessiveness has one criterion: you don’t want anybody to make the person happy but yourself.
Each woman will come away from this important event with vital knowledge and fresh hope through learning what Aesthetic Realism alone explains: 1) possessiveness is not love because it arises from the hurtful desire in oneself to have contempt; and 2) the purpose that makes real love possible is to want to know a husband and use him to care honestly for all else!
The fee for the class is $10. For more information, call 212.777.4490.