Devorah Tarrow, Aesthetic Realism consultant, writes:
Trust has been seen as the cornerstone of marriage, and every wife wants to feel she and her husband will be trusting of each other. But even with this hope, a wife or husband can feel about the other—often without putting it into words: “I don’t have confidence in you. There’s something I’m after that I feel you don’t want to see. And you seem to think about me with suspicion too. You say something, but do you really mean it?” There’s an underlying feeling, You don’t trust me, and I’m not sure I trust you. Married people haven’t understood the cause of this feeling, but have felt bad about it.
“How Can a Wife & Husband Really Trust Each Other?” is the subject the Understanding Marriage! class will address and answer clearly on Saturday, Sept. 9th, from 11:00 AM to 12:30 PM. At the heart of the class and of the answer women will be learning is this definitive principle stated by Eli Siegel, founder of Aesthetic Realism: “Marriage is a means for liking the world through a person. Too often, though, marriage is a contemptuous exclusion of the world.”
Barbara Allen, Anne Fielding, and Meryl Nietsch-Cooperman of the consultation trio There Are Wives will conduct this cultural, practical event, which will focus on the following important sentences from an Aesthetic Realism lesson taught by Mr. Siegel:
Everyone is looking for an answer to the question “Why am I not trusted?” Let’s take Mrs. Fox. She thinks she is trusted partially by her husband. She, in turn, responds with partial trust of him. Both are correct. This is a question every person should ask: Will I be happy unless I feel I deserve to be trusted?…
A crucial area as to trust is this: when you say you want someone to be happy, do you mean it, or are you putting on a show? The first thing in being trusted is that we be interested in the welfare of other people.
Each woman will get fresh hope as she sees that a wife and husband will trust each other when they feel about one another: “You really want me to care for and be interested in the world and people!”
The fee for the class is $10. For more information, call 212.777.4490.