At the Understanding Marriage! class on Saturday, December 14th, this question will be answered, clearly and deeply. The class takes place from 11:00 AM to 12:30 PM.
Conducted by consultants Barbara Allen, Anne Fielding, and myself, Pauline Meglino, this eminently practical class will be taking up the following comprehending sentences from an essay by Eli Siegel, founder of Aesthetic Realism:
There are many women who have been praised by men they knew and have felt, nevertheless, that something not so good was being encouraged in them or evoked from them. The Aesthetic Realism viewpoint is that if anything is flattering to yourself and doesn’t make the whole world look better in your eyes, that which is flattery is only flattery—it is not useful praise. The most important thing about praise of yourself is that you should be able to believe it and be proud that you believe it. [TRO 1064]
Every woman will be learning what it means for praise to be useful: when it has a wife feel honestly comprehended, more integrated, and strengthens the best thing in her—the desire to like the world.
Women will come away from this exciting event with the liberating feeling: “Yes!—finally it’s really possible to be sensible about praise!”